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Getting to know someone can be an intimidating process — one upon which we all depend to build relationships. So how do you best go about it? Your body language , questions, and responses in the early moments of a conversation will form an impression that may or may not be to your advantage in the long run.
Your skills in getting to know people successfully will directly affect the outcomes of job interviews , dates , and important client meetings. No pressure, right? We can all improve our conversation skills to better reach our personal goals. Check out our video below for ideas on how to get to know someone, or just keep reading! The best conversations are like a river — they flow along, even if there are a few bumps and turns along the way. It takes some practice and finesse to drive a balanced conversation that moves along naturally, and having some good questions tucked in your back pocket can help you navigate slow spots and push past mere small talk.
In this guide, we will share 53 great questions to ask to get to know someone. Asking questions helps show your conversation partner that you are interested in them as a person. They are deed to help draw out and introduce meaningful, rather than superficial, conversation topics that you can both converse on without forcing participation. The best part is that asking just one of these questions can open and carry an interesting conversation that will leave you far better acquainted with a new contact than everyday small talk.
Before diving into the list, it is important to note that not all conversation questions are alike. They often play off of typically light starter conversation topics such as work, family, entertainment, or personal interests, which makes for an ideal transition into deeper questions later on once you know the person a little bit better. If you are humorous in general a funny ice breaker can work quite well too.
Here is a list of conversation starters. Now, for the deeper questions. Each one is deed to go beyond the surface and encourage more revealing, real conversation. In fact, it might feel uncomfortable to ask some of these questions, but ultimately the goal of getting to know someone on a deeper level means putting yourself and the other person in a more vulnerable position. Getting to know someone takes effort, and these questions offer you a simple way to dig deeper, faster.
What questions do you find are the most helpful in getting to know a person? Do you have special questions for dates, interviews, clients, and colleagues? Mmm … not sure how this would go down in England. Even your starter questions sound dangerously intrusive to the English ear. Over here we mostly talk aimlessly about the weather. That works well, because English weather is highly variable, and if you are lucky it will change dramatically during the conversation, enabling you to start talking about it all over again. Lol, very entertaining remark.
I would agree, most of these would lead to a raised eye brow and a turned back, but that could just be the Midlands for you. Every month, I have to lead virtual discussion groups deed to team build. It rotates in terms of who le the discussion, and your list will be quite helpful in giving me years of conversation starters for this! Good timing. Good ideas! Also good input from the folks in England and Germany — useful to know for those of us in the U.
I have one pet peeve that I feel like needs to be mentioned. You can see it in the video around by looking at the top corners of your bookshelf. Otherwise, the quality of your videos is fantastic. Thanks for the feedback. We have the camera on a slider, and for some reason, it shakes at certain stages. I will look into it. The weather has always been the best way to start a conversation. Career teaches us, our occupation is everyday life enhanced with a magnifying glass.
The simplest way to get into a conversation as deep as possible with someone is to ask someone about himself for everyone loves to talk about himself, it is his favorite topic actually. Some of the leading questions that you offer are fine so long as the questions come across as natural and not staged.
That is not entirely true. There are many people who prefer not to talk about themselves because they have deeply rooted problems with their self image or self esteem. Also there are people who might open to talking about themselves in general but at the very moment they want to forget their troubles and hence would prefer to talk about something else in order to take their minds from whatever bothers them at that given moment. Cultural differences play a VERY important part of conversations within different countries. As a world traveler, I meet people from all over Europe and Asia, and the communication styles are dramatically different, as is body language.
VERY different from country to country. I agree. Yet there are more issues to be taken into consideration in my eyes. There are also huge difference in how people communicate even within the same society based on their social status and upbringing or their class if you will. Pierre Bourdieu coined the term habitus for these differences and what he wrote a few decades ago still rings true today.
For example in the lower or working classes it is not only common but expected that you tease others and come up with a witty reply when you are being teased. Both of which can be rude to an extent that people with a middle or upper class upbringing would react offended.
Also education is playing an important role. You should always try to speak in a manner and about topics that your partner s in the given conversation can follow. This is true for conversations with people with a lack of higher formal education but it is also true within the realms of academia.
For example you might bore an economist to death with your ideas about the tonal differences between Schoenberg and Webern — unless they are into twelve tone music as well. In that case they might be more than happy that finally somebody does not want to discuss the current trade war or the possibitly of a second housing bubble with them but rather a topic that has nothing to do with their profession. The best key here is listening. People will usually show you if they feel comfortable with a topic or the situation. It is your duty however to observe what is happening around you.
In case you shop at amazon, buy the I am Dandy Book and we refer you, prices are the same as normal, as an amazon associate we earn a commission from qualifying purchases. A conversation is an art form. Hobbies and personal interests are easy starter conversation topics — just ask Sven Raphael Schneider about driving fast cars! Nice article all in all though. You are boring. Hi Jack, Thanks for the feedback. June 19, at AM. The Gentleman Movement.Want to get to know someone new
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25 Questions To Get To Know Someone Deeply