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I was really glad to see the amount of people who took the time to answer this question, because as a Professional Counselor, I believe a really important part of being a healthy individual is to be able to recognize the times and seasons of life that tend to be the most difficult. I wanted to share them in this post in the hopes that even just KNOWING other people also struggle to feel alone during these times, reminds you that in a small way, you are not alone in your struggle. Quiet evenings after work. Most of you answered that coming home to an empty house after a long day of work is one of the hardest times to be single.
Not having anyone to process the day with, for many singles, the evening hours can seem long and lonely. If this resonates with you, I challenge you to do what you can to fill some of those hard evening hours with extra company. an evening small group at your church, plan a weekly dinner get together with a small group of friends, or use that time to hit the gym or get involved in an activity to keep you feeling connected.
Sleeping Alone. Many of you noted that having no one to fall asleep next to, or wake up next to is the hardest part of being single. My husband and I, along with most married couples I know, typically have our final chat, give each other a goodnight kiss, and then roll over to our sides of the bed, and fall asleep!
When you need to be taken care of. Some of you mentioned the times when you are sick, stuck on the side of the road in a broken-down car, or in the middle of a crisis or emergency as some of the hardest times to be single. If this is you, I challenge you to take inventory of your community and how involved you are with the people in your life. Do you have one or two friends that you can call on in case a need arises?
If not, is there anything keeping you from developing these kind of relationships? What are some next steps you can take to deepen your relationships with the friends God has placed in your life? At the start of a new day. A lot of you communicated that the first hours of the day are filled with the hardest feelings of singleness. I remember going through this struggle, particularly in graduate school. I would wake up to an empty apartment, and the feelings of loneliness would hit me like a Mac Truck.
I would feel utterly and completely alone. More on that in this article. I learned to see HIM as company, and rely on His presence to get through my lonely mornings. My relationship with God took on a whole new level of dependence and meaning, and looking back, I am thankful for those times of loneliness , because they eventually led to teaching me the importance of solitude with my Jesus. And He proved to be good company. Single, think through this for a moment: How can you take the pain of your morning, and turn it into praise? During the normalcy of life. Cooking dinner for one, going to a movie, browsing through social media, attending a wedding or social gathering, or walking into a church building and sliding into the quiet pew all alone.
Rather than letting these feelings isolate you, allow this strong need to compel you to find meaningful relationships with the people around you. The bible talks about the body of believers as a group of people who ate together, worked together, and even lived together. Single, no matter who you are, or how much hope you feel right now, know this: you are not alone in feeling alone. Loneliness is a universal struggle, reminding us of our need for God, and our need for people.
You are valuable, you are loved, and you are worthy no matter your relationship status, because you were made by a God who values you for simply being YOU. This post was originally posted a couple years ago, but I decided to resurface this conversation. Debra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life , where she writes candidly about dating, relationships, and how to find true love.
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5 Times When It’s Hard to Be Single